So, here's the thing...I mean well. We all do (well, most of us). And I still mess up. Despite being a perfectionist in just about every area of my life, I am a flawed friend. And I am painfully aware of that. Through unrelenting processes of critical self-awareness, I have learned to admit my flaws in … Continue reading I Get Tired Too, Sis.
Have you written down the list? You know which one I am talking about. The list of things you want in a mate. The wish list of romance. The list of hopes and dreams of love. I haven't written that list. A few weeks ago I was talking with Dr. Joan about love and whatnot … Continue reading The List
"I've never asked for more money. I've always just been happy to have the job offer." A brilliant young woman of color, Nina, recently said this to me in a conversation about women in the workplace. I immediately began offering her some how-to tips that would help her get past being overjoyed at receiving a … Continue reading How I Learned to Negotiate a Higher Salary
There are a small number of places in the world where I can see myself spending the rest of my days. Of those places, only two are in the United States, and New Orleans will forever hold one of those spots. My first trip to New Orleans was in 2014 with one of my … Continue reading The Local Guide to New Orleans
"It's Okay to Pray...AND Go to Counseling." It's a debate that I find myself having every few months with my (very Christian, very southern) Black family. Any conversation about mental health and healing in my family usually ends with the age-old adage, just pray about it. Or, "you can't pray and worry, so which one … Continue reading It’s Okay to Pray…AND Go to Counseling.
Last week, a few articles discussing the importance of being more child-like regarding professional life were highlighted in my blog subscription emails. This post will focus on the "Adulting is Killing your Vibe--Master these Toddler Moves Stat" from Shine and "8 Reasons Thinking Like a Child Will Make You Happier" from Mental Floss stood out … Continue reading Unleashing your Inner Child to Master Graduate School
My husband and I have what some might call a non-traditional relationship... We were high school sweethearts who ended up going to different colleges and managed to keep the relationship together. You might be thinking what’s non-traditional about that? Well, let me tell you. After graduating from college my husband, then my bf, got a job … Continue reading 3 Things I’ve Learned From My Long Distance Marriage
Content warning: "Profane" language, and mentions of disordered eating. It's true: I love the podcast Therapy for Black Girls created and curated by Dr. Joy. Her work is a ministry in my life. I've known her since my time as a master's student at the University of Georgia where she and another Black woman mental … Continue reading Therapy for *This* Black Girl
As a co-founder of #CiteASista and one of five founding members of #SisterPhD I am no stranger to spending a lot of my time working towards (and on) supporting Black women. My research is about Black women. My life's work is on centering and supporting Black women. I work, every day, so fewer Black women … Continue reading Not you too, sis?: Taking Advantage of Fellow #BlackGirlMagic