Cardi-B released her most recent single "Be Careful" and many consider it to be a musical warning shot at her cheating fiance. I don't know the ins and outs of Cardi's relationship, but what I hear in this song is a pain all too familiar. One that my friends be they Ph.D. or No-D, middle class or … Continue reading New Music Friday: Cardi-B x Be Careful
One of the best things about engaging in therapy for yourself is having a trusting relationship with a person that can hold the mirror up for you, to help you see things that are emotionally eclipsed in your own awareness. However, if you're a client like me, you probably already have a list of things … Continue reading The Insightful Client: Getting the Most out of Therapy
At the start of my doctoral journey, one of my professors had a real, raw, and relevant conversation with my cohort. It started with her simply saying “Life Happens” and she paused, looked at us and repeated, “Life Happens”. She talked about her stories of seeing divorces, deaths, sickness, job shifts, etc. happening to students … Continue reading When Life Happens…
After writing extensively for three weeks, waiting off and on for written results for another three weeks, and then anxiously counting down the days until the oral defense of my preliminary exams...it happened. I was FINALLY a Doctoral Candidate! It was by far the happiest moment that I have experienced since getting the call with my … Continue reading “I Expect You to do Well”: Diary of a High-Achieving Black Girl
It is Lenten season. To my knowledge this is the first time I have been intentional in this season. I have some friends that are holding me accountable. I have enrolled in an online bible study course with Trinity United Church of Christ. I have been praying for some specific things during this time. One … Continue reading My First Pastors
It's true: When I'm at my best, I celebrate every possible occasion that I can. People who know me know that I LOVE (all caps) a celebration. I often find ways to do it, even if an occasion doesn't traditionally call for a celebration. Half birthday? Celebration. Took out the trash, washed dishes, laundered, folded, … Continue reading YAY!!! Celebration!
It's March 1st ya'll!!!! And with March 1 comes an end to Black History Month and beginning of Women's History Month. If you're like us at Cite A Sista, both of these identities are your own, inextricably tied, and require an intersectional understanding of the world. So as we think about celebrating Black women, we … Continue reading From #BlackHistoryMonth to #WomensHistoryMonth… It’s Black Women’s History SEASON!