Being a strong "friend" means I never want to actually talk about the roots of my problems and what's really going on because I don't want to bother people. But receiving a text, phone call, email, something showing a modicum of thought beyond "can you help me with" can be seriously affirming.
At the start of my doctoral journey, one of my professors had a real, raw, and relevant conversation with my cohort. It started with her simply saying “Life Happens” and she paused, looked at us and repeated, “Life Happens”. She talked about her stories of seeing divorces, deaths, sickness, job shifts, etc. happening to students … Continue reading When Life Happens…
"I've never asked for more money. I've always just been happy to have the job offer." A brilliant young woman of color, Nina, recently said this to me in a conversation about women in the workplace. I immediately began offering her some how-to tips that would help her get past being overjoyed at receiving a … Continue reading How I Learned to Negotiate a Higher Salary
Last week, a few articles discussing the importance of being more child-like regarding professional life were highlighted in my blog subscription emails. This post will focus on the "Adulting is Killing your Vibe--Master these Toddler Moves Stat" from Shine and "8 Reasons Thinking Like a Child Will Make You Happier" from Mental Floss stood out … Continue reading Unleashing your Inner Child to Master Graduate School
My mother raised me not to say anything if I’m not sure what to say. She also taught me to never dismiss the feelings of people around me, even if I do not understand them… And yet, as a high-achieving Black woman (as described by others, this isn’t a narcissism thing), I find myself time … Continue reading Stop Dismissing Fear of Failure in High Achieving Black Women
Getting into a doctoral program was the most exciting part of my educational journey because there was a time when I felt that it was an unobtainable goal. After all, I was kicked out of school due to poor grades, and the president of the institution told me I wasn’t "college material" and that I … Continue reading “You Are Built For This”: Countering Imposter Syndrome
Recently, a friend asked me to help her decide if she should apply for a new job. The description of the job read like it was perfectly designed for her and she was very excited about the opportunity. When I asked why she was unsure, she said “I don’t meet the qualifications in the last … Continue reading Don’t Believe the Lie!: 3 Ways to Combat Imposter Syndrome
"I Promise…” Those were the last words I told my Uncle as his lifeless body lay on the hospital bed. It was New Years Eve and I came home from New York to celebrate with my parents. What was supposed to be one of the best nights of my life quickly became the worst … Continue reading My Doctoral Journey Began With Two Words…