It's no secret in my friend circles that I was the last one to start having sex of any kind. I squandered my would be heaux years because of raggedy ass purity culture, never exploring myself as a sexual person, ashamed of any and all desire to know another person beyond a kiss or nipple [...]
Brittany Williams (hey boo!) and I came up with #CiteASista as a project for a course in the summer of 2016. Our professor tasked the class to create a project that challenged whiteness and white supremacy. We threw patriarchy right on under the bus for fun and crafted up a twitter chat about centering Black [...]
From time to time, I make a trip to a Godiva store and buy myself some $15 chocolate covered cashews. They're delicious. I appreciate their goodness. I shared my Godiva with a few people. One of them got slick at the mouth about the quality of my chocolate. Okay. Cool. The next time I bought myself [...]
I learned that I needed to mourn because I got tired of carrying around grief that I pretended did not exist. I learned how to mourn after I realized that I didn't have practices to help honor the grief that I experienced and that I carried with me. I have learned to mourn non-events (i.e., [...]
Mama was the first sista I ever cited and was my introduction to Black womanhood and Black Feminism. Long before I took up room in the academy, Mama taught lessons about agency, an ethic of care, resistance, joy, and love. Mama's words and experiences were legitimate sources of knowledge and her ideas were my tools [...]
I was in a group on a social media site where a member posted a photo of women in a group photo. The women had clearly taken time to get dressed up for the picture and the joys of sisterhood had them glowing in the photo. A couple of Petty Betty group members wanted the [...]
This past March, Dr. Marvette Lacy and I hosted this year's Black graduate women and alumnae photo sista circle (#BlackGradWomenSC) at our alma mater, the University of Georgia- a historically, predominantly white institution. The response from sista-scholars to the 2017 Black Graduate Women's photo experience encouraged us to (re)turn to the same space and (re)claim the joy, [...]
It's true: When I'm at my best, I celebrate every possible occasion that I can. People who know me know that I LOVE (all caps) a celebration. I often find ways to do it, even if an occasion doesn't traditionally call for a celebration. Half birthday? Celebration. Took out the trash, washed dishes, laundered, folded, [...]
Content warning: "Profane" language, and mentions of disordered eating. It's true: I love the podcast Therapy for Black Girls created and curated by Dr. Joy. Her work is a ministry in my life. I've known her since my time as a master's student at the University of Georgia where she and another Black woman mental [...]
#CiteASista: Today & Everyday 