Mama was the first sista I ever cited and was my introduction to Black womanhood and Black Feminism. Long before I took up room in the academy, Mama taught lessons about agency, an ethic of care, resistance, joy, and love. Mama's words and experiences were legitimate sources of knowledge and her ideas were my tools … Continue reading #IllAlwaysLoveMyMama #ShesMyFavoriteGirl
Being a strong "friend" means I never want to actually talk about the roots of my problems and what's really going on because I don't want to bother people. But receiving a text, phone call, email, something showing a modicum of thought beyond "can you help me with" can be seriously affirming.
Cardi-B released her most recent single "Be Careful" and many consider it to be a musical warning shot at her cheating fiance. I don't know the ins and outs of Cardi's relationship, but what I hear in this song is a pain all too familiar. One that my friends be they Ph.D. or No-D, middle class or … Continue reading New Music Friday: Cardi-B x Be Careful
My husband and I have what some might call a non-traditional relationship... We were high school sweethearts who ended up going to different colleges and managed to keep the relationship together. You might be thinking what’s non-traditional about that? Well, let me tell you. After graduating from college my husband, then my bf, got a job … Continue reading 3 Things I’ve Learned From My Long Distance Marriage
One of my favorite Bible verses is 1st Corinthians 13:13 (chapter and verse): "Faith, hope, love, these three, but the greatest of these is love." Back when my religious beliefs were far more rigid, I mostly applied these concepts in a religious sense. As I've been graced to live, I have realized that those words … Continue reading Faith | Hope | Love
Hey #CiteASista family! My name is Bridgette and I'm a newly minted MPA with a focus on Nonprofit Management and Higher Education. I'm the newest addition to the Cite A Sista family and I couldn't be more grateful. That said, this is my first Cite a Sista post and I am pretty hype! LOL. I … Continue reading Let tomorrow worry about tomorrow
I’m a Jay-Z fan. I will argue anyone nine ways til’ Sunday about why the Black Album is one of the greatest albums ever made—not greatest rap, not greatest hip hop, but actual factual greatest albums ever. Before 4:44 dropped, I found myself debating the same concepts across differing communities... For some reason, marriage and … Continue reading On Agency, #Jayz444, #443chat, & a Woman’s Burden
Over the past year, several of my #sistascholars have experienced breakups to varying degrees. Given the pain and frustration I've watched them deal with, I felt it necessary to discuss healing and growth within the break-up process too. To illuminate ways in which heartache does not mean the rest of the world stands still with … Continue reading My Relationship is Over, but I Still Have Work to Do
Greetings Cite a Sista Family, As I am writing this, we are on the eve of what could potentially be a very difficult night for many of us. This month’s Cite a Sista chat focuses on us as Black women being too educated to be loved. What a concept? I want to acknowledge that I … Continue reading Bae is Great, But I’m Tired!