Cardi-B released her most recent single "Be Careful" and many consider it to be a musical warning shot at her cheating fiance. I don't know the ins and outs of Cardi's relationship, but what I hear in this song is a pain all too familiar. One that my friends be they Ph.D. or No-D, middle class or … Continue reading New Music Friday: Cardi-B x Be Careful
Have you written down the list? You know which one I am talking about. The list of things you want in a mate. The wish list of romance. The list of hopes and dreams of love. I haven't written that list. A few weeks ago I was talking with Dr. Joan about love and whatnot … Continue reading The List
My husband and I have what some might call a non-traditional relationship... We were high school sweethearts who ended up going to different colleges and managed to keep the relationship together. You might be thinking what’s non-traditional about that? Well, let me tell you. After graduating from college my husband, then my bf, got a job … Continue reading 3 Things I’ve Learned From My Long Distance Marriage
Pumpkin spice lattes are being served. Fleece pajamas and furry blankets are being pulled from the closet. The cold weather is approaching. Soon it will be too cold to do anything but lay-up, eat vegetarian chili (with cornbread) and Netflix and Chill (NAC) well into the night. You know what that means? Yes, cuffing season is … Continue reading 4 Tips for Cuffing Season Success
A situation or occurrence in which something closes forever. Closure. Lately, I have had to have some real honest conversations with myself about this. A relationship ends, be it amicably or not. You may spend any period of time adjusting and then you move on, right? Nah bruh. But what about that time you looked … Continue reading Closure.
Hey #CiteASista family! My name is Bridgette and I'm a newly minted MPA with a focus on Nonprofit Management and Higher Education. I'm the newest addition to the Cite A Sista family and I couldn't be more grateful. That said, this is my first Cite a Sista post and I am pretty hype! LOL. I … Continue reading Let tomorrow worry about tomorrow
Lately, I’ve been spending a lot of time in community with Black women in what can only be described as cultivating and nurturing friendships. I’ve gathered with girlfriends, old and new, for the sole purpose of communing based on our commonalities and agreeing to grow through our differences. I’ve danced the night away in celebration … Continue reading My #1 Tip for Amazing Sister-Friendships
I’m a Jay-Z fan. I will argue anyone nine ways til’ Sunday about why the Black Album is one of the greatest albums ever made—not greatest rap, not greatest hip hop, but actual factual greatest albums ever. Before 4:44 dropped, I found myself debating the same concepts across differing communities... For some reason, marriage and … Continue reading On Agency, #Jayz444, #443chat, & a Woman’s Burden
Over the past year, several of my #sistascholars have experienced breakups to varying degrees. Given the pain and frustration I've watched them deal with, I felt it necessary to discuss healing and growth within the break-up process too. To illuminate ways in which heartache does not mean the rest of the world stands still with … Continue reading My Relationship is Over, but I Still Have Work to Do
Greetings Cite a Sista Family, As I am writing this, we are on the eve of what could potentially be a very difficult night for many of us. This month’s Cite a Sista chat focuses on us as Black women being too educated to be loved. What a concept? I want to acknowledge that I … Continue reading Bae is Great, But I’m Tired!