"No more aimless scrolling. No more spending time in spaces that drained me emotionally... My plan isn't to completely run away from or stop using social media altogether. But it is to be more intentional about how much time I spend aimlessly scrolling and the messages I'm digesting and internalizing as a result of my social media usage."
I am embracing a culture of transparency, which, to me, is different than honesty. I will delve into this in a later post, but a part of this culture of transparency is not hiding my feelings. This is especially true when it comes to people I am interested in. Most recently in a text thread, … Continue reading I like you… I think
Brittany Williams (hey boo!) and I came up with #CiteASista as a project for a course in the summer of 2016. Our professor tasked the class to create a project that challenged whiteness and white supremacy. We threw patriarchy right on under the bus for fun and crafted up a twitter chat about centering Black … Continue reading Why I (Literally) Cite A Sista
Nicki Minaj has released her highly anticipated 4th Studio Album QUEEN today and the internet is ablaze. For full disclosure, I'm a Nicki fan and have never steered clear of admitting this even when I have to express my disappointment of some of her actions (e.g. her commentary on sex work). At the first playthrough, I found … Continue reading New Music Friday: Nicki Minaj “Queen”
This morning on Facebook, I'd written a status asking about ghosting and the word no. The status said-- I have a question for Gen X/ Millennials... why is it so hard for people to say “no” in lieu of ghosting? Saying no is responsible. It shows you considered something but for whatever reason, it won’t … Continue reading Is “No” a Dirty Word: On our Culture of “Ghosting”
Black girl freed 1,000 men and I could have freed a thousand more if they wanted to see me free too... Ain't that a word?
From time to time, I make a trip to a Godiva store and buy myself some $15 chocolate covered cashews. They're delicious. I appreciate their goodness. I shared my Godiva with a few people. One of them got slick at the mouth about the quality of my chocolate. Okay. Cool. The next time I bought myself … Continue reading Save Your Pearls: “Nice” is a Trap
I have a love/hate relationship with new music because I miss the days of things being clever versus on the nose. Nevertheless, I'm a huge music fan and I listen to everything and almost anything once-- except EDM. Issa no for me dawg. Either way, summertime playlists are a staple for us as Black women … Continue reading Three Songs by Black Women to Add to Your Summer Rotation
Just before I began the first semester of my graduate program, I nervously drafted an email to my advisor. To my surprise, I had been accepted into a program that would help me fulfill my goal of a rewarding career in health education. But part of me thought maybe the selection committee had made a huge … Continue reading Lessons Learned: Reflections on Graduate School 10 Years Later
I learned that I needed to mourn because I got tired of carrying around grief that I pretended did not exist. I learned how to mourn after I realized that I didn't have practices to help honor the grief that I experienced and that I carried with me. I have learned to mourn non-events (i.e., … Continue reading Learning to Mourn Because Sh*t Hurts