We've ALL been there. Unjustly taxed, silenced, and punished for speaking up. We've endured the frustrations, anger, and even rage that is all too common for #BlackWomenAtWork. We know what it feels like to be repeatedly tormented in a public place and to FINALLY release those frustrations...only to be told that we "aren't a team [...]
Author: Raven K.
Grief and Betrayal: What Happens When Black Men Betray Us?
Over the past few weeks, social media has been in a whirlwind of think pieces and "call-ins", as we (society) have grappled with the realizations that some of our faves (actors, entertainers), may not be as perfect as *we* (society) once thought. PLEASE do not read this as being in defense of ANY of the [...]
The Insightful Client: Getting the Most out of Therapy
One of the best things about engaging in therapy for yourself is having a trusting relationship with a person that can hold the mirror up for you, to help you see things that are emotionally eclipsed in your own awareness. However, if you're a client like me, you probably already have a list of things [...]
“I Expect You to do Well”: Diary of a High-Achieving Black Girl
After writing extensively for three weeks, waiting off and on for written results for another three weeks, and then anxiously counting down the days until the oral defense of my preliminary exams...it happened. I was FINALLY a Doctoral Candidate! It was by far the happiest moment that I have experienced since getting the call with my [...]
I Get Tired Too, Sis.
So, here's the thing...I mean well. We all do (well, most of us). And I still mess up. Despite being a perfectionist in just about every area of my life, I am a flawed friend. And I am painfully aware of that. Through unrelenting processes of critical self-awareness, I have learned to admit my flaws in [...]
It’s Okay to Pray…AND Go to Counseling.
"It's Okay to Pray...AND Go to Counseling." It's a debate that I find myself having every few months with my (very Christian, very southern) Black family. Any conversation about mental health and healing in my family usually ends with the age-old adage, just pray about it. Or, "you can't pray and worry, so which one [...]
Is It Too Late To Say…Sorry?
It's the beginning of a new year and most folks have been repeating their, "New Year, New Me" mantras on social media for the past few weeks. New perspectives, new opportunities, new....friends? Maybe. But does a new year mean it's too late to address old hurt in your friendships? If there's one MAJOR lesson that [...]
Congresswoman Auntie Maxine Waters (that's her official title by the way), really gave us a lifelong mantra with her edict, #ReclaimingMyTime. There really is power in taking back things (feelings, goals, dreams, etc.) that have been stolen from you. In that regard, we can also think about reclaiming our friendship, energy, and love in the same [...]
It’s Easy To Root For Your Girl When She’s Winning… But What Happens When She Stumbles?
It can be really fun and exciting to root for your girlfriend(s) when things are looking up. She just landed her dream job, launched her blog, was accepted into grad school or maybe even just defended her dissertation. These are all times of celebration where it (should) feel natural to love on those in your circle. [...]
#GirlsTrip: Is #SquadCare the new #SelfCare?
Over the past few days, there's been a LOT of discussions about #girlstrip, #squadcare, and overall #BlackGirlMagic. If you haven't made it to the theaters yet, don't worry. This post won't provide any spoilers for you about #GirlsTrip, the movie. It will, however, get you thinking about what a #girlstrip may mean for you and [...]