It's spring semester ya'll, and for me, that means graduation season is almost upon us. If you're like me, "Omg," "fml," "I'm so behind," etc. will be screams heard 'round the world (and certainly from me) as we draw closer and closer to defense dates and final submission deadlines for the graduate school. As I think … Continue reading 8 Useful Graduation Gifts for the (Almost) Ph.D. in Your Life
This morning on Facebook, I'd written a status asking about ghosting and the word no. The status said-- I have a question for Gen X/ Millennials... why is it so hard for people to say “no” in lieu of ghosting? Saying no is responsible. It shows you considered something but for whatever reason, it won’t … Continue reading Is “No” a Dirty Word: On our Culture of “Ghosting”
“Don’t worry about all that… focus on school, don’t have no babies and when you’re done, everything else will fall into place.” People in my life A decade later, things still seem like they haven’t fell in place. I will be the first to admit that I had plans to be married by 25, kids … Continue reading Focus On School They Said, Everything Else Will Fall Into Place They Said…
After writing extensively for three weeks, waiting off and on for written results for another three weeks, and then anxiously counting down the days until the oral defense of my preliminary exams...it happened. I was FINALLY a Doctoral Candidate! It was by far the happiest moment that I have experienced since getting the call with my … Continue reading “I Expect You to do Well”: Diary of a High-Achieving Black Girl
"I've never asked for more money. I've always just been happy to have the job offer." A brilliant young woman of color, Nina, recently said this to me in a conversation about women in the workplace. I immediately began offering her some how-to tips that would help her get past being overjoyed at receiving a … Continue reading How I Learned to Negotiate a Higher Salary
Hey, Sistas! So, I'm trash and have been absent from writing my posts, but I am back like a Lebron hairline! With the school year starting for students all across the U.S. and abroad, I wanted to take a moment to honor my commitment to providing feedback on what NOT to do in an interview. … Continue reading You Tried It: What not to do during an interview
At Cite A Sista, we rarely reblog a post… But this important piece by indigenous feminist scholar Erica Violet Lee is important to boost.
What truths would be written if academics weren’t afraid of losing their jobs?
What truths would be written if you followed through, in practice, the type of sovereignty and decolonization you theorize in journals?
All the times I’ve heard some version of “I’m concerned about your academic career if you talk about this publicly”: that’s not concern for me.
I knew about the systems, I knew the stories about these men. We all do. We all do, because academic aunties gossip. And academic auntie gossip saves lives.
But still, I irrationally believed I was safe, or somehow exempt.
Even after, in second year, that time I got out of that ethics professor’s car, downtown, at night, in the middle of winter, and walked home rather than sit beside him after he joked that his seats recline all the way, if I was interested.
Even after, in third year, that time your fave scholar put his 50-something-year-old…
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Heyyyyy Sistas! Happy It's almost May which means summer is around the corner! As many college students prepare to graduate and enter the workplace and many other professionals scout out their next big move, I couldn't help but reflect on some HORRIFYING interviews I've seen and experienced as both a candidate and interviewer for this … Continue reading So You’re Interviewing for a Job?: Think About It
As a part of my professional development package with my current place of employment, I’m consistently catching flights to other parts of the country to attend conferences and workshops. As I traveled back from a recent gathering in Boston, I was fortunate enough to be seated next to an off-duty flight attendant. Ya'll... My nerves … Continue reading Chasing Checks vs. Chasing Dreams