This morning on Facebook, I'd written a status asking about ghosting and the word no. The status said-- I have a question for Gen X/ Millennials... why is it so hard for people to say “no” in lieu of ghosting? Saying no is responsible. It shows you considered something but for whatever reason, it won’t … Continue reading Is “No” a Dirty Word: On our Culture of “Ghosting”
From time to time, I make a trip to a Godiva store and buy myself some $15 chocolate covered cashews. They're delicious. I appreciate their goodness. I shared my Godiva with a few people. One of them got slick at the mouth about the quality of my chocolate. Okay. Cool. The next time I bought myself … Continue reading Save Your Pearls: “Nice” is a Trap
I learned that I needed to mourn because I got tired of carrying around grief that I pretended did not exist. I learned how to mourn after I realized that I didn't have practices to help honor the grief that I experienced and that I carried with me. I have learned to mourn non-events (i.e., … Continue reading Learning to Mourn Because Sh*t Hurts
“Don’t worry about all that… focus on school, don’t have no babies and when you’re done, everything else will fall into place.” People in my life A decade later, things still seem like they haven’t fell in place. I will be the first to admit that I had plans to be married by 25, kids … Continue reading Focus On School They Said, Everything Else Will Fall Into Place They Said…
So let's talk about this feature image... I participated in this personal project called Scars of our OWN by Sarah, owner and photographer of OWN Boudoir. It is a project where participants are exploring there external and internal scars. These photos were done in March and I had been going back and forth about whether … Continue reading For colored girls who live for snap filters and a little bit of cleavage
Thanks to the ever-evolving intersection between women's health and mobile app technology, you can now have birth control pills delivered to your home faster than the next book on your Amazon wishlist! One of the most important health achievements in the modern era has been the ability for women to decide when or if they … Continue reading Want Your Birth Control Delivered? There’s an App for That!
Being a strong "friend" means I never want to actually talk about the roots of my problems and what's really going on because I don't want to bother people. But receiving a text, phone call, email, something showing a modicum of thought beyond "can you help me with" can be seriously affirming.
Over the past few weeks, social media has been in a whirlwind of think pieces and "call-ins", as we (society) have grappled with the realizations that some of our faves (actors, entertainers), may not be as perfect as *we* (society) once thought. PLEASE do not read this as being in defense of ANY of the … Continue reading Grief and Betrayal: What Happens When Black Men Betray Us?
Recently, a friend brought to my attention a blog post on the AfroPunk website because it discusses health and because it used a photo taken by the incomparable Saadi Khali as part of a discussion on the way we view bodies that are considered fat (I'm careful with my language here because I have a hard time … Continue reading Here’s the Truth About Her Weight
Yesterday I turned 29. It is a birthday that can often be discarded. It is the last of your 20s, but it is not 30. I, however, was not going to let this be just a blah birthday. I planned a full weekend of activities that kicked off with a cooking class with my mom, … Continue reading #B29: Birthday Reflections