I had every intention of writing a lengthy post about World Aids Day. Instead, I'll pull a Buzzfeed and share with you my tweets about today: ** Header image by: AIDS Service Foundation
This morning on Facebook, I'd written a status asking about ghosting and the word no. The status said-- I have a question for Gen X/ Millennials... why is it so hard for people to say “no” in lieu of ghosting? Saying no is responsible. It shows you considered something but for whatever reason, it won’t … Continue reading Is “No” a Dirty Word: On our Culture of “Ghosting”
I learned that I needed to mourn because I got tired of carrying around grief that I pretended did not exist. I learned how to mourn after I realized that I didn't have practices to help honor the grief that I experienced and that I carried with me. I have learned to mourn non-events (i.e., … Continue reading Learning to Mourn Because Sh*t Hurts
Thanks to the ever-evolving intersection between women's health and mobile app technology, you can now have birth control pills delivered to your home faster than the next book on your Amazon wishlist! One of the most important health achievements in the modern era has been the ability for women to decide when or if they … Continue reading Want Your Birth Control Delivered? There’s an App for That!
Over the past few weeks, social media has been in a whirlwind of think pieces and "call-ins", as we (society) have grappled with the realizations that some of our faves (actors, entertainers), may not be as perfect as *we* (society) once thought. PLEASE do not read this as being in defense of ANY of the … Continue reading Grief and Betrayal: What Happens When Black Men Betray Us?
I turned in a full draft of my dissertation proposal and finally got a moment to breathe. As an over-committed graduate student working to break the cycle of doing too much (in my best of Moneybagg Yo et al. voices), I decided to allow myself the space to watch four hours of TV this week. In T.V. … Continue reading On #Scandal, “The List,” & A Culture of Workplace “Sex”
One of the best things about engaging in therapy for yourself is having a trusting relationship with a person that can hold the mirror up for you, to help you see things that are emotionally eclipsed in your own awareness. However, if you're a client like me, you probably already have a list of things … Continue reading The Insightful Client: Getting the Most out of Therapy
Have you written down the list? You know which one I am talking about. The list of things you want in a mate. The wish list of romance. The list of hopes and dreams of love. I haven't written that list. A few weeks ago I was talking with Dr. Joan about love and whatnot … Continue reading The List
"It's Okay to Pray...AND Go to Counseling." It's a debate that I find myself having every few months with my (very Christian, very southern) Black family. Any conversation about mental health and healing in my family usually ends with the age-old adage, just pray about it. Or, "you can't pray and worry, so which one … Continue reading It’s Okay to Pray…AND Go to Counseling.
My husband and I have what some might call a non-traditional relationship... We were high school sweethearts who ended up going to different colleges and managed to keep the relationship together. You might be thinking what’s non-traditional about that? Well, let me tell you. After graduating from college my husband, then my bf, got a job … Continue reading 3 Things I’ve Learned From My Long Distance Marriage