Yesterday I turned 29. It is a birthday that can often be discarded. It is the last of your 20s, but it is not 30. I, however, was not going to let this be just a blah birthday. I planned a full weekend of activities that kicked off with a cooking class with my mom, [...]
One of the best things about engaging in therapy for yourself is having a trusting relationship with a person that can hold the mirror up for you, to help you see things that are emotionally eclipsed in your own awareness. However, if you're a client like me, you probably already have a list of things [...]
It is Lenten season. To my knowledge this is the first time I have been intentional in this season. I have some friends that are holding me accountable. I have enrolled in an online bible study course with Trinity United Church of Christ. I have been praying for some specific things during this time. One [...]
It's true: When I'm at my best, I celebrate every possible occasion that I can. People who know me know that I LOVE (all caps) a celebration. I often find ways to do it, even if an occasion doesn't traditionally call for a celebration. Half birthday? Celebration. Took out the trash, washed dishes, laundered, folded, [...]
"I've never asked for more money. I've always just been happy to have the job offer." A brilliant young woman of color, Nina, recently said this to me in a conversation about women in the workplace. I immediately began offering her some how-to tips that would help her get past being overjoyed at receiving a [...]
"It's Okay to Pray...AND Go to Counseling." It's a debate that I find myself having every few months with my (very Christian, very southern) Black family. Any conversation about mental health and healing in my family usually ends with the age-old adage, just pray about it. Or, "you can't pray and worry, so which one [...]
Content warning: "Profane" language, and mentions of disordered eating. It's true: I love the podcast Therapy for Black Girls created and curated by Dr. Joy. Her work is a ministry in my life. I've known her since my time as a master's student at the University of Georgia where she and another Black woman mental [...]
As a co-founder of #CiteASista and one of five founding members of #SisterPhD I am no stranger to spending a lot of my time working towards (and on) supporting Black women. My research is about Black women. My life's work is on centering and supporting Black women. I work, every day, so fewer Black women [...]
A few weeks ago, a friend of #CiteASista wrote a detailed post about her experiences with interracial dating. In true call it like it is form, Natasha reminded Black women why we should stop selecting ourselves out of the wider dating pool out of loyalty to Black men. We especially loved the facts laced within [...]
Hi. I'm single. And in this journey I have been able to write some good things about what I want partnership to look like. And lately intimacy has been a big part of that. I desire a partnership that is transparent, vulnerable, teaching, challenging and thoughtful. I desire a love that pours into me as [...]
#CiteASista: Today & Everyday 